“Speaking this language can save your life.”
As women, we are extra tuned in to what people are saying even when they are not speaking words. This second Women’s Personal Safety Secret should, therefore, make a lot of sense. Making the tips into habit will take a little more work but will be well worth it!
We know, from Personal Safety Secret #1, that the attacker mindset includes low self-esteem, feeling insecure and out of control. This means attackers are already in a weakened state. In order to get the “power fix” they desire, they must succeed at the attack. This inspires them look for someone who appears weaker than themselves.
Looking weak and being weak are two different things. You can be very confident but look weak simply by being distracted with a cell phone conversation. You can also have a terrible day but portray yourself as strong and confident just by adjusting your body language. Consider that whatever you are feeling on the inside is showing on the outside and attackers are quite good at reading body language.
Confident body language is very important to teach children. Pedophiles use it to select victims. We all need to know how to hold our heads up extra high when we are not feeling our strongest to counteract the normal slump that accompanies a challenging day.
Since attackers are insecure cowards looking to attack people weaker than they are, all of us need to look big, strong and confident. Here’s how:
Six Tips for Confident Body Language
Hold your head up – this makes you physically taller so that you look bigger, stronger and more confident.
Keep your shoulders back – it is physically impossible to look weak when your shoulders are back.
Look side to side as you walk – this makes you look aware of your surroundings.
Swing your arms – this makes you bigger because you literally take up more space in front of and behind you.
Walk with purpose – this makes you look strong and confident..
Be ready to yell, drop what you are carrying and run – material possessions are not worth risking your life for.
Now, you will be more conscious of other people’s body language and that of your own. If you are a woman with kids or teens, you will notice how much more confidently they come across after they develop confident body language into a habit. You will feel more confident about their safety and will have fun sharing these tips with other men and women!